Divorce Poison
Your ex-spouse is bad-mouthing you to your children, perhaps even trying to turn them against you. If you handle the situation ineffectively, you could lose your children's respect, their affections - even, in extreme cases, lose contact with them. The conventional advice is to do nothing, that fighting fire with fire will only result in greater injury to the children. But Dr Richard Warshak is convinced that this approach does nothing but leave parents feeling helpless. And the damage to children is considerable, particularly when warring parents enlist children as allies in the battle. The problems range from tainted parent-child relationships to a disturbance known as parental alienation syndrome in which children virtually disown one of their parents. DIVORCE POISON is the first book that offers specific advice to protect children from the results of their parents' animosity. It details how to distinguish different types of criticism, how and why parents manipulate their children, how to detect these manoeuvres, and how these practices damage children. Most importantly, it offers parents powerful strategies to preserve and rebuild loving relationships with their children.

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Cheated
Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS) is the teaching of children of divorce or separation to harbor negative feelings and emotions toward the parent who generally does not have custody and does not reside in the same domicile. This is usually done in an effort for one parent to gain the respect and love of the children, while destroying the image and relationship of the absent parent. This phenomenon will generate feelings of hatred, ambivalence, and distance between children and the non-custodial parent. Our family court system does little to eliminate these occurrences, and although the parent affected is cheated of a normal relationship with the children, the real damage will manifest itself within the children.

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Elusive Innocence
Fathers falsely accused of child abuse are a rapidly growing population. The National Center for Child Abuse and Neglect reports 3.5 million cases of alleged child abuse in 1998, with 1 million of these confirmed. But 71 percent of the accusations were unfounded and false. (Dean Tong, 2002). One can only imagine the horror that a man goes through when a child he dearly loves betrays him. Not only does he have a losing battle with a twisted court system rubber-stamping the zealous actions of the child-protective-service agency, he can never prove his innocence to the most important people in his life. Never knowing what his friends and family really think is the worst part of all. The process goes on endlessly. Not only is the threat of jail hanging over his head, but his family is destroyed. The child inventing the lies, usually in collusion with the mother, becomes only a pawn - also a victim, a weapon against a hated husband. Dean Tong, author of Elusive Innocence: Survival Guide for the Falsely Accused (2002), is one of the nation's best experts on how a man can win his case.

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Mom's House - Dad's House
This book is a new, revised and updated edition of the book of the same name originally published in 1980. Dr. Ricci heads the Statewide Office of Family Court Services for California'as 82 family courts and has been a licensed marriage and family therapist for 22 years. The material for Mom's House, Dad's House came out of her experience as a therapist and mediator, teaching seminars and classes for divorcing parents. From her students and clients she learned how difficult and complex it could be for divorcing parents to pull away from their former intimate relationships and reorganize their lives. The present volume is a distillation of all that Dr. Ricci learned in those early and in subsequent years. Its goal is to inform divorcing, separated, or remarried parents on how to constructively heal the wounds of separation and establish a healthy new life for their children. Dr. Ricci argues that, contrary to traditionally accepted beliefs that divorce means destruction of the family, a new kind of really workable and satisfying family life can be created for a child while parents maintain separate residences. Reaching this state is, however, not easy. It involves an understanding by both parents of their mutual goals, and much hard work at "pre-separation boot camp" to actualize these goals. This is a painful process where former intimacy is replaced by a business-like approach with the needs of the child rather than those of the parents being paramount. The rewards to all parties are, however, enormous. Fortunately, as difficult as the process of separation may be, Dr. Ricci leads us through it in great detail, dissolving commonly held myths, describing the various stages of separation and the problems inherent in each, how to set up separate residences and still maintain a "family," and the path out of our irrational negative intimacy to a rational relationship. Her points are well-illustrated throug the felicitous and ample use of quotes from clients. Also included are sections on the all-important legal side of separation and divorce and how to make it work for you, the divorcing parent, rather than for attorneys. The basic elements of parenting plans and agreements "the most important legal document when it is filed" are well-described in great detail and are alone worth the price of the book. Post-separation problems include those of the parent who fades out of the picture and their possible re-entry into the family relationship are well-described as are the wherefores of developing an extended family and acquaintance network, long-distance parenting, and difficulties involved in moving on. remarriage, dealing with "flashbacks" to the original relationship and former family life, and all the other problems one is likely to encounter even years after a divorce. Finally, for the layman who wishes to know more and for the professional, there are sections of detailed chapter notes, further reading, and appendices on information for your child's school, how to find a knowledgeable attorney, the costs of raising children, ideas for customized private clauses for private contracts, a mediation confidentiality agreement,and a guide for choosing child care.

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Coparenting Survival Guide
When couples have children, an acrimonious divorce can be painful for everyone involved. Couples can bear enormous resentment, anger and disappointment toward each other yet they still have to collaborate on one of the most complicated and difficult jobs in the world: child-rearing. Too often the intricacies of visitation, holiday plans and differences over discipline are left to lawyers, escalating the antagonism. Psychologists Elizabeth S. Thayer and Jeffrey Zimmerman argue that it doesn't have to be that way, and in The Co-Parenting Survival Guide: Letting Go of Conflict After a Difficult Divorce they help parents work harmoniously with their exes. Founders of Parents Allied to Co-Parent Effectively (PEACE), a service for high-conflict divorced or divorcing parents, the authors offer advice from conflict resolution to dealing with stepparents that could save parents thousands of dollars in legal fees and protect kids from needless misery and trauma.

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Family Court Hell
Any father whose got nowhere in the family courts when trying
to maintain his relationship with his children may well think he lost out
for a variety of reasons; because his case was not put properly, the judge
did not listen, the welfare report was bias or some other likely reason for
why the injustice took place. By reading 'Family Court Hell' it should become apparant that farce and injustice is dished out routinely in the family courts-if your children's
mother simply opposes you seeing them. Fathers up against a mothers'
hostility will usually get no where at all-especially when young children
are involved-as the courts avoid being put in the position of having to
enforce any order upon a mother. They would rather demonise the father
instead and pick him off as an individual troublemaker. Truth, justice or
even the children's welfare is simply not on the agenda. You are not alone, this is just the way they operate.

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I Want to See my Kids
Tina Rayburn and Timothy Forder's new book `I want to see my kids'
is the first in a generation of new books to be published that bears witness to the suffering of fathers, mothers and their children at the hand of Britain's secret family courts. This eloquent and moving testament is overflowing with humanity, compassion and understanding. It dispenses invaluable advice, in a calm, authoritative tone. It is without doubt an essential read for every father or mother who is separated or divorced and wants to understand how devastating family breakdown can be and how the family justice system in this country, instead of saving your family, may ultimately destroy it.

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Father's 4 Justice
This tome collates the activities of Matt O'Connor & F4J to date, & illustrates with superb statistics & other evidence the sorry disarray of the secret family court system , where no one is accountable, & children's lives are destroyed. Witty, candid, visceral & loaded with orca sized profanity, O'Connor plays Ahab to the family court's Moby Dick, in this unzipped lycra, factual reveal of the most colourful campaign group of this century. Kamikaze escapades are propelled at us,& the author's recollections of these sorties are filled with profanity. Harry Ramsdens must have a hotline to O'Connor, as he sure knows how to batter. But it is humorously delivered, with a keen eye for sharp prose, & whilst stuffier bookworms may object, O'Connor has delivered a historical text rock & roll stylee, & where applicable,it's shrewd, rude, & crude. His soul & raison d'etre is bared more effectively than a Spencer Tunick photo;You won't get this bones bared honesty from any other public figure. O'Connor grabs you by your vitals, & pell mell polemics one through an odyssey of trial by poor deals, naming names & shaming the games of the authorities. He punctuates with punchlines & floors you with the hopelessness of the system & it's hapless, helpless contenders. The journey is comic, anguished, & ultimately sends a message of rational thought compassion & forgiveness.

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Access Denied
Mr Chick took on and exposed the secret family law system for the farce that it is. How he kept his head, control and self discipline throughout the nightmare of a time when him and his daughter were being abused / denied the contact they should have been having throughout his 2 years of protesting beggars belief. This dad, acting alone did more to inform the public of the family courts failings than anyone person before or since. Over 200ft in the air for over 6 days during his Tower bridge protest was some feat. This protest of his was the first time the children's and fathers rights issue went global and was the first which made anyone aware of F4J as Mr Chick used one of their banners because they were fighting for the same cause. There were three other 'crane'protests of varying amount of days endurance prior to this one, and as for going on the London eye as a paying spectator - that is scary enough, but to climb around the whole thing (over 450ft high) and stay there for so long - all again to raise public awareness of the family law scandal - that was AWSOME too. A brilliant book by a great man, who I know for a fact is now seeing his daughter on a regular basis (as should have always been happening). No contact for 21 months when there is a weekly contact "order" in place but the court who made it don't bother to enforce it - Now that is scandalous.

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The International Handbook of Parental Alienation Ayndrome
The dramatic increase in the number of child-custody disputes since the seventies has created an equally dramatic need for a standard reference work that examines the growing social problem of children who develop an irrational hatred for a parent as the result of divorce. The International Handbook of Parental Alienation Syndrome: Conceptual, Clinical, and Legal Considerations features clinical, legal, and research perspectives from 32 contributors representing eight countries, building on the work of the late Dr. Richard Gardner, a pioneer in the theory, practice, diagnosis, and treatment of Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS). This unique book addresses the effects of PAS on parents and children, discusses issues surrounding reconciliation between parent and alienated child, and includes material published for the first time on incidence, gender, and false allegations of abuse in PAS. Content highlights examines PAS and the roles of family members, the criminal justice system, and the need for public awareness and policymakers to respond to PAS. Descriptive statistics on 84 cases are given, and the factors affecting reconciliation between the child and target parent are listed. The mild, moderate, and severe categories of PAS are explored, and the psychological consequences of PAS indoctrination for adult children of divorce and the effects of alienation on parents are researched. The role of medical reports in the development of PAS, sexual abuse allegations, and future predictions on the fate of PAS children are many of the clinical considerations in this book. The legal issues concern PAS in American law, criticisms of PAS in courts of law, protecting the fundamental rights of children in families, family law reform, International PAS abductions, and the legal requirements of experts giving evidence to courts. The impact and implications of PAS are immense, and no other single source provides the depth and breadth of coverage of the topic than the clinical and forensic chapters in this book.

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Parental Alienation Syndrome
Dr. Gardner has studied this controversial syndrome extensively, and is one of the few people willing to talk about it publicly. Currently going through this with my daughter and her mother, this book has helped me recognize happenings that I would have otherwise dismissed. I highly recommend this book for anyone going through "difficulties" with children who are from divorced, separated, or single-parent families. Dr. Gardner uses real-world examples to explain situations and explores this subject in great detail. Although he has targeted this book for legal and mental health professionals, any parent who fits into the above category would benefit.

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